Conflict is part all relationships, however, there is a way to have productive dialogue during such times. In Linda and Charlie Bloom’s An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, they outline some helpful tips that can help couples improve upon their communication during heated arguments. Their wisdom comes from many decades of working with clients, including couples, in psychotherapy.

Disclaimer: Strength 4 Spouses was given a complimentary copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

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An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships is like a manual for having conflict. This book gives you tips, advice, and actionable ways to fight more fairly, be a more attentive listener, and communicate in a less harmful way to preserve your relationship.


What I loved the most about this book is that the chapters are short, so that keeps you engaged. The actionable suggestions that you can readily implement are super helpful. The text is easy to read and digest and the strategies make sense.

My Final Thoughts

An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships is a great book to read with your spouse. Many of the tips are no brainers, but in the heat of an argument all logic disappears and emotions run high. This book could be a great tool for counselors, social workers, chaplains who counsel military couples before marriage, and case managers with the Army Community Service’s New Parent Program. Conflict is a part of all relationships, but this book can assist you with having healthy conflict and communication that does not injure your relationship, but rather helps it thrive and strengthen.

© Strength 4 Spouses LLC, 2023.

About the Authors

Linda and Charlie Bloom

Linda Bloom, LCSW and Charlie Bloom, MSW have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and
relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups, and organizations since 1975 and
have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA and internationally, including the Esalen
Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, Northern California Mindfulness Institute, The California
Institute for Integral Studies, and the World Health Organization. They have authored five books, including the
bestseller, 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last (over 100,000
sold), Secrets of Great Marriages, Happily Ever After… and 39 Other Myths about Love, That Which Doesn’t
Kill Us: How One Couple Became Stronger at the Broken Places
, and An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable
Lessons for All Relationships
. They are founders and co-directors of Bloomwork, based in Santa Cruz,

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