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A new year is upon us. That is an opportune time to make a fresh start by setting goals and making improvements. Below are a few things to consider eliminating in the New Year to make life more enjoyable.

1-People Pleasing

Be unapologetically you! Do not seek the approval of others in everything you do. Live life for you and be yourself. The right people will love you for who you are!

2-Unhealthy Habits

We all have an unhealthy habit or two. Evaluate what those are and work hard to break them in 2020. The time is now to live a healthier life style, but it takes work. When you feel good on the inside, it radiates on the outside. Living healthy isn’t just physical, it can work wonders for your mental health too!


A negative mind can truly make your world seem very dark. As soon as a negative thought enters your mind, combat it with something positive. Start a habit of writing down three positive things that happened each day or, even better, write down one positive thing each day and put into a gratitude jar. At the end of the year, you’ll be able to see just how many great things happened throughout 2020. This turns negativity into positivity and helps you to see a cup half full instead of empty.


Get better at saying “no.” It is okay to opt out of things that do not serve a positive purpose. Evaluate your schedule and how you want to spend your time. Start by saying “no” to the things that bring stress instead of joy.

5-Too Much Screen Time

Research has proven that too much screen time can not only have physical health effects but it can also affect your mental health. Limit your screen time by silencing alerts and setting specific times for social media check-ins. This will not only free up time, but also improve your life dramatically.

A New Year is the perfect time to make improvements to your life. It takes intention, focus, will power, & perseverance. Make the next decade great by being the best version of YOU that you can be. What areas of your life need improvement? Get started now and make 2020 your best year yet!

© Strength 4 Spouses LLC, 2019.

headshot of the author Wendi Iacobello

Wendi Iacobello is a new mom, has been an Army wife for four years and part of military life for six years. Her career, as an adult educator, lasted nine years prior to military life. She has a Master of Arts in Educational Media, and a Bachelor of Science degree in Early Childhood Education. Currently, Wendi is a blogger, freelance writer, aqua cycling & stroller fit instructor, and an avid volunteer in the local community. Wendi is extremely passionate about helping others find their inner strength by sharing her experiences, insight, resources, and inspirational stories on her blog Strength4Spouses.