During the holiday hustle and bustle, it’s easy to get lost in the to-do list, shopping, planning, gift wrapping, holiday parties, and so on. What about your spouse? What about time for each other?

Something my husband and I have always made sure we do is to plan special time for each other weekly. Even during our dating days, we always found quiet time to focus on each other somehow. This has worked wonders for our relationship over the years and we have continued this tradition on into our marriage.

What I mean by finding time for your spouse is to put away all technology-based distractions, and have intentional and focused quiet time. That doesn’t mean to sit in strange silence. Light music in the background is okay, so as long as your attention is on each other.

Here are a few extra ideas to help you devote some much-needed time to your spouse:

1-Go for a walk or a hike together-going outdoors can bring solitude and peace to your day. It can also give you a nice and awkward free way to focus attention on your spouse, while enjoying some fresh air.

2-Go on a picnic-Find a cozy and quiet spot outdoors and enjoy a picnic together. This is one of the oldest, most romantic, traditions for a couple that never goes out of style.

3-Cook a four course meal-Plan a special dinner for the two of you at home.  A four course meal sounds like a lot of work, but it does not have to be.  It can be as simple or as fancy as you like.  The key is to set a romantic table, dress up, and serve each course of the meal separately. Ensure you are taking your time, enjoying the meal, as well as each other’s company.

4-Arrange a couples massage-Not only does this relieve stress and make you both feel great, it also creates a bonding moment for you and your spouse.

5-Enjoy a drink together-Sit on your front or back porch and sip some hot chocolate together, or any beverage of your choice.

6-Go to bed early-Before you’re ready to pass out, lay in bed beside your spouse. Turn all electronics off. Snuggle, talk, laugh, pet each other, and simply just stare at the beautiful human being you vowed to spend your life with.

7-Write a love note-Sneak a love note into your spouse’s pocket, car, or lunch bag. This tiny act of kindness lets your spouse know you are thinking of them. You could even write an invitation to your spouse for one of the ideas listed above to create anticipation and excitement all day.


For those with children, most of these activities are only for a few hours or so, which makes it possible to find a sitter for a very short duration of time. It’s worth it to invest in your relationship.

No amount of money can buy this time back with your spouse. These memories and special moments are the ones that really make an impression when your spouse is gone. The moments you create are what will carry you and your relationship through the battles of distance and time apart. Don’t forget your spouse this busy holiday season and always.

© Wendi and Strength 4 Spouses, 2017.